My writing philosophy is this: anyone can write. However, not everyone can write well and tell a good story while doing it. Writing takes a lot of work. And one of the things a writer must be is objective. Let's be honest. We love our stories and our characters. However, we can't let our feelings overpower our objectivity. This is especially true when it comes to critiques.
I recently blogged about the novel I am working on titled REKINDLE. As I began writing, I felt the need to get the story set up properly. Thinking I was off to a great start, I continued with the story. But something felt off. I couldn't put my finger on it, but I was not connecting with Kallie at all. Joey's scenes were going great, though. So each time I sat down to write, I would edit and add some more. I'd do the same thing the next night. And the next night. With just over 8,000 words (four chapters), I stopped. I couldn't go on. I am not one of those writers who can "get the story down and edit later." Yes, I edit when I've got my first draft done, but I can't keep writing when I know something is so terribly wrong.
So what did I do? I posted my first chapter at Absolute Write. After receiving some awesome advice, I deleted the first couple pages. I didn't even try to edit; I just took them out completely. I did revise the new opening scene, and guess what? The story reads better. It's not burdened by an unnecessary opening. I can connect with Kallie much better. And now I can continue. With a few minor revisions to the remaining pages, I'll be on my way.
I could have reacted differently. I could have insisted that the opening was necessary (I loved the first paragraph!) and tried to edit. I could have pleaded my case and tried to figure out something else. But I didn't. Instead, I looked at the story objectively and acted accordingly. And that is necessary for all writers to do.